Why do you have friends?Why do you want friends?
I want friends for a few reasons. One of the biggest reasons I make friends, particularly within my ward, is that I never want anyone to feel like they have no friends. I know what that's like, and it is not fun. I never want anyone to feel that way, if I can help it.
Also, I want people to know that they can call me whenever if they are in a bind. When they think they have no one they can call, they can call me. I also know what it's like, feeling as though you have no one to call in an emergency. I want all my friends to know that they can always call me.
I'm not exactly sure why I'm like this. Maybe I just need to be needed. Although my children "need" me all day, and I get a bit weary of that at times. But it's different when it's a friend. While I'm not a huge fan of cleaning my own house, or doing my own dishes, I have no problem doing them for a friend in need. And it's actually easier to take care of my children when there are other kids over playing with them.
I also need friends, just like every other woman. I have friends on a superficial level, but I need friendships that go deeper than that. My SIL has been my best friend since before I married her brother, and I love the girl to bits. We talk on the phone frequently. But she lives 6 states away. We never see each other. It'd be nice to have bosom buddy a little closer to my bosom. As in within an hour's drive, not right on top of my chest. Ü
I guess this is also one of my favorite things about blogging. I feel much closer to some of the women I've met online than others I've known for 2 years. ♥u, girlies.
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Why do you have friends?
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I don't have very many close close friends. I know a lot of people. I think for me, having a best gal pal, just isn't what I need. I like so many different people and get so much from everyone that I'd hate to just get clicky or whatever.
Also, my hubby is honestly my best friend, was my best friend for 5 years before we got married and he is honestly all I need.
but I do have 2 really great best friends and I need them b/c they know me, in all phases of life, they love me and would do anything for me. they don't live by me, two different states and I miss them but I know they would jump on a plane and be here in a jiffy if I needed something drastic.
great question
I don't have a lot of close friends either... lots of the superficial stuff (like, 200+ "friends" on facebook)... I don't like being alone but I don't like letting people into my world... I'm super shy too and always worry that once someone gets to know me they will see how uncool I am and not want to be my friend anymore - yeah, I'm a dork... interesting question to ponder though...
So true! I need friends to, but am very cautious of who they are and what their intentions of being my friend included. It takes me years of know someone before I can call them a friend, but once we are there we are friends for life because I make them sign a contact. LOL j/k But I do try to find friends that will be in a 50/50 relationship with me so that I do not take advantage and they do not either.
Kerri said she drove by your house but forgot where you lived, so she couldn't tell me. We should have a play date in the Library park sometime.
You are awesome! I am thankful you are my friend! Hope you have a super 4th of July weekend :) ♥ HUGS ♥
I agree with everything you said here. I need those connections with other women. I have 3 very close friends, two I talk with on a very regular basis.
One of the great things I've loved about blogging, is the friendships and connections I have formed.
My husband always tells me he doesn't need friends, he has me, and I think that it's different for men.
I absolutely need friends. I have moved a lot since I have been married and there have been times when I hardly knew anyone and I hated it. I felt very lonely. For me, I like having someone to laugh with. Someone I can go do fun things with. And someone who will care for me when I need it and vice versa. I have my husband, but there is something special about strong friendships with other women that I need in my life. And I am the kind of person who never wants to lose contact with a true friend. I do my best to stay in touch, because it makes me happy to really connect with people.
What I love is knowing that I have a couple of really good friends here in Missouri, the best friend I've ever had (your mom!) and three daughters (that includees you, silly!)that have grown up to be wonderful friends to me as well. Robin
I am somewhat of a loner. but when I feel the need to get out and talk then it's nice to have a friend to do that with. I wish I would iniciate more activities to hang out with them so I can see them more then every 2 years... lol
oh and BTW it was nice to FINALLY see your home and to spent some time with you guys. I really miss that from when we lived only 15 mins away.
I think I need friends so I an enrich my life. (I know that sounds horribly selfish but I'm not trying to come off that way.)
My friends are all so amazing in so many different ways and their talents just make my jaw drop. I learn from them, I enjoy seeing and hearing about their creations, studies, employment, hobbies, etc and it makes me want to do more, be better and all that.
Plus I enjoy friends because like others have said I've experienced the times when we had moved so many times I knew and had no one outside my home. Which while I am blessed with a great family I needed that time with friends. I found an amazing book group that was a real answer to my prayers.
One of the reasons I have gfs is to share things with them that are so chicky/mama, my husband wants to try and fix if I share them with him. Usually all I need is a good vent/ice cream LNO to solve. Gf's rock, and so do you!
My close friends are few but very dear to my heart. We share life together-- the good, the bad and the ugly. They seem to make it all easier.
You are such a great bloggy friend, and I'm so glad I've gotten to know you! I love making new friends, it's one of the things that makes life exciting. When I was in college, I had a few close girl friends but was mostly friends with guys. Since I've been married I've realized more than ever how important it is to have lots of great girl friends!
Great post! I agree with your reasons, and I think I also need friends to be witnesses of my life. I can't tell you how many times when I feel like all is lost a friend has said, "But Jenna, don't you remember when..." and will remind me of some time that God showed me the way, or gave me an answer, and in my emotion I have just forgotten.
Friends are the best.
I LOVE this post! I just don't get it when I hear people say they don't need friends, that their hubby and children are all they need. Bull Butter! Women NEED other women. Husbands are great, but guys just don't get it. We need other women to talk to, giggle with, bond with, SHOP with. We need someone who gets us. That's why I need friends. And I'm so glad to call you my friend.
Bull butter--- I LIKE it! What a great expression!! This was a great thought provoking post, I'll have to pull my thoughts together and share at a later time. Thanks for the doing it, it's really good stuff to ponder.
Ahhh...friends. I have friends for my sanity. To help me laugh. To help me see things in a new light. To lift me up. To carry me when I am down.
I think friends are like food. Some friends, like some good foods, are full of nutrition, filling you up and enriching your life. And then there are some friends that, like junk food, are fun to spend time with but have no real depth and are only valued in the moment. I need both kinds in my life just like I want both kinds of food, filling most of my time with the good friends and using the fun friends in moderation.
I definitely need friends. But there have been some friends that are hindrances to me. Like the ones who are so negative all of the time or so needy all of the time. My sister doesn't have close friends. Jusdt acquaintances and her hair dresser. She doesn't like to talk to people and socialize. But I love to have really good friends. I especially need friends to goto lunch with sometimes and talk on the phone with. My husband doesn't like to talk, so if I didn't have friends to talk to i'd go crazy!
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